Most people would think you are crazy for declining a new position at your job. Most would probably be correct.
What do you do when your mentor at your job, your supervisors, and your manager all think you should apply for a position that just opened up, but you feel otherwise?
Let me set the stage for you.
I work for a financial institution in their call center. It sounds boring, but I find it quite interesting really. It is a very eye opening experience when you can see peoples financials all day, but I digress. I currently do several things including, Mentoring/Training new employees, sales leader (I help keep track of sales, training on sales, staying up to date on information and promotions, attend meetings. Your typical sales stuff), I also on top of all of this I take regular customer service calls.
An opportunity came up to go into a position that paid slightly higher hourly, paid some commission, and would be a stepping stone to other opportunities. Sounds like I should have applied right?
Gains and Losses
I enjoy mentoring, and training new employees. With our department being a call center, we are kind of the best starting place to later move out in the company. We handle a little bit of everything, or at least have exposure to a little bit of everything in the company.
Training new employees, and mentoring them in the start of their careers is something I really love doing. This is something that I would lose if I got this new position.
Am I willing to exchange this for some small financial gain? I have thought a lot the the in the three days that the position was open to apply for.
My shifts right now are typically Monday – Friday 650am-350pm, which allows me to work on my own projects, and build my brand during the evening. This works out great for some work I do, because it gives me plenty of time to get work done, plus get sleep to tackle the next day. This new opportunity, if I got it, would throw me into a situation where my schedule would be thrown off and I would lose my evenings where I build, and create my own thing.
The small financial gain, just did not outweigh how much I enjoy mentoring/training, and working on my own stuff in the evening.
If you didn’t figure it out, I declined even applying for the position. That was probably a mistake, and one I will have to live with. My manager, supervisors, mentor, and even my mangers manger were thinking I was the best candidate for that position. I did not make this decision, because I may be comfortable doing what I do now. Training people is not comfortable. Their success is partially dependent on how well I train them. Of course, the other part is their own personal effort, but if I don’t put in a great effort then they have no where to go from there.
At this point, you have to ask yourself, “who am I trying to please?” The answer should always be, YOU! You should be trying to please yourself, build your dreams, take your own path. Even when other people wont quite understand your decision, you need to look out for yourself. You need to look out for your best interest.
Now, keep in mind that this decision I made would not be the best decision for you if you were in this situation. There’s not a singular formula when it comes to making the right decision here. What seems right to me, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right for you.
Making a Decision
When you’re making tough decisions, try not to get caught in analysis paralysis. Write down the pros and cons of the decision.
Be honest about these pros and cons, and do not try to weight one side based off of fear or your current comfort level.
Seek a mentor else where. Find someone you trust, and that is currently at a higher level in their career, or business. This way you know you’re getting an insight from someone who maybe has been there before.
Do what you feel is right for you, and will take you the direction you want to go. Do not try to please other people.