I was a quitter
As a kid I quit playing baseball after coach pitch, I quit basketball after playing one year in the 5th grade, I quit scouts before I became a Boy Scout, I quit band after two years. I was a quitter. My problem was, I feel that my dad was pushing me into doing these things, and they no longer became fun. If I was going to do these activities, I wanted to do them, because “I” wanted to do it. Not because he was forcing me to. I remember him getting upset when I quit something, I could tell he was frustrated and disappointed. He was trying to teach me a life lesson the best way he knew how.
My dad has this saying, “if you’re going to do something, do it right.” My dad was trying to push me to do these things, to participate, to get these amazing experience these activities could produce, and i didn’t realize what he was trying to teach me.
Hard work is okay
My dad is your typical middle class dad, blue collar worker, with a house, a couple acres of land, 401k savings, retired at 65, and now fishes in his retirement when he can.
He worked at the same company for nearly all of my life, and retired from there. He work for one of the two biggest electrical companies in the tri-state area. The type of work he did was hard work. He was a lineman, who climbs electrical poles, run electrical cable, fixes transformers, and a lot of other roles that I am unaware of. When an ice storm hit, hard rain, snow storms, he was on call and would have to get up in the middle of the night and go to work. There were two ice storms we had that he was gone nearly the entire day, out working hard to fix broken lines and poles, trying to restore power for people. This is not work for the faint of heart, and weak of soul. It is dangerous work, working with high voltage electrical systems. It’s physically and mentally demanding, especially when you cannot be at home some times of the year, as much as you wish to be. Luckily, in the last few years of his career there he did some lighter work before retiring.
One thing about my dad, is when he came home from work, he would work at home. Doing all kinds of yard work, or projects around the house he had. This would be anything from cutting trees, splitting wood, building something, doing some landscaping, you name it and he was doing it. He is a really intelligent man, can build anything, or fix any thing it seemed. I wish I had taken on some of those traits. I don’t know the first step in building a shed or really anything. That’s what YouTube is for these days, right?
My dad only knew hard work, and safe investing. This stemmed from his childhood of seeing his dad have to sell nearly everything as soon as they had it. They never had anything fun, or nice. I remember my dad telling me he had a dirt bike at one time as a teenage, but his dad sold it. They also moved around a lot when he as growing up. When my parents had my brother and I, we only moved once when I was in kindergarten, and they havn’t moved since. My dad worked his fingers to the bone for our family, to give us what we have.
Now that he has retired, the projects at home are fewer. He relaxes a little bit more, but he earned it. He put in the hard work today, to relax tomorrow
The biggest lesson
Show up and do your best in everything you do. Don’t quit.
My dad has taught me a lot of things in subtleties, and by example. Like the importance of working hard, doing the right thing, that family is important, you can mend tough relationships, and the list could go on. It really hasn’t been but just in the past few years I’ve really begun to realize everything he’s been teaching me. I have also realized that I have taken on some of his traits like his humor, sarcasm, his mannerisms, personality, problem solving, approach to teaching someone; just to name a few.
The biggest lesson I have learned, and recently realized he had been teaching me, is to not be a quitter. If you want something, you work hard for it, you keep your integrity, you do it right, and you do whatever it takes to get it.
I now see in others what my dad saw in me when I was younger, and quit things. We are full of so much potential, and it hurts me to see people waste their’s. It hurts to see someone who just gives up, stops trying, becomes a quitter.
What I am learning now
One thing I am learning, and not from my dad, is that the middle class is being squeezed out and you need to get out. I am thankful for what my dad has provided, and continues to provide to me and my family, but I want to take a slightly different path.
There is nothing wrong with hard work You need that good work ethic I spoke about, to build a future. I want to build a future where I do not work for money my whole life, and then one day at age 65 finally get to relax.
I want the financial freedom where money to works for me, so I can build a future, be able to go places, experience things, and build up savings for my eventual (maybe) retirement. I do not want to rely on a 401k, for retirement, and definitely do not want to be in position where I receive Social Security checks. I have seen social security checks, and they range between $700-1300 a month. That is not enough to live off of, trust me.
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